A few weeks ago I was getting ready for a social gathering and all of a sudden, I had this uncontrollable anxiety surrounding the event. When talking to a friend about it, we pinned my anxiety down to the fear of meeting new people. This was something that I had struggled with in the past but wasn’t sure why this event had me so worked up. We went over the details one by one and couldn’t figure out where it was stemming from….until my friend had this one thought. And here was where the question came in, the question that made me ponder the views of society surrounding my lifestyle. “Are you afraid they’ll hate you because you’re vegan?” she asked. And just like that, my whole world stood still in complete disbelief and confusion.
“Hate me because I am vegan?!” I played this question in my head over and over again and asked myself why anyone would ever hate someone because they are vegan. And then I saw it as my brain replayed the memes, the videos and the numerous, puzzled faces of people who questioned my lifestyle.
I thought about the vegans that I know and how they are some of the most inspirational, strong willed people that I know and this is why…….
Here are some of the reasons why I think it should be impossible to hate a vegan:
- Vegans are some of the most compassionate people out there! Every day vegans are making a choice: a choice to save an innocent animal and to give them a life they deserve. They have enormous hearts and the thought of any animal being tortured will make them cringe. They are some of the ones out there marching, starting sanctuaries, donating and being a voice for the anonymous.
- Vegans persevere!!! Unfortunately, we live in a society where your food choices are almost like your religious beliefs and not everyone feels the same way that we do. We have to fight obstacles and defend our choices EVERY single day. People look at you like you are crazy, you get numerous questions about where your protein comes from, and people simply do not understand. An individual has to be strong willed and persistent to get through the daily grind of being vegan.
- Vegans care about YOUR future! Studies have shown, and there is absolutely no denying, that we are causing immense harm to our planet. Even if we stopped everything harmful right now, it would take over 100 years to reverse it. Every choice we make affects our planet, our future and the future of our kids/grandkids. With every bite that a vegan takes, he or she is cutting down on animal agriculture, saving water, decreasing climate change, and is creating a better future for YOU!
***I realize that these are all general statements, and just like with any group, I cannot account for every vegan. I realize that we are all different, but these statements are true about the vegans that I know.
I know that there will still be haters out there, but I ask you to think about these points next time you start making fun of someone who is vegan. There is so much more to us than quinoa and kale 🙂 .
And for those of you who are out there living this lifestyle, please be proud of who you are and be PROUD THAT WHO YOU ARE IS A VEGAN!
Happy Healin’ Vegan is a blog that will help you “create a happy and healthy life.” Although I intend to maintain a positive space, I will also share parts of my story that we can all learn from. This blog is a vulnerable one for me but is hopefully something that can help us all grow as happy and healthy individuals.
As I reflect back, I realize the most difficult part of being in my 30’s has definitely been not having children. And this was not because of my desires to have a baby, but because of society’s expectations for me to do so.
It was literally the day of my 30th birthday when people started sending diaper coupons to my email and when people started asking the “none of their business” questions regarding my fertility. In the six years since then, people have said things to me like, “You’re not getting any younger,” “Have you been to the doctor,” “Being a mom is the greatest gift in the world,” and my all-time favorite, “If you’re not going to use your uterus, maybe you should just have it removed!”
Maybe part of it was my fault. I always loved children and was a nanny who couldn’t stop raving about what Bobby or Tiffany did or said during my workdays. It was only natural that I would get married and immediately have children. But as I grew up, my desires changed. I longed to have a successful, life-changing career. And being diagnosed with an incurable illness was an obstacle that put being a mother on the back burner.
I am not saying that I don’t want to have children (Lord knows that I have been saddened and have cried with every baby announcement that has come my way). However, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and that my time will come if and when it is right. In the meantime, not being a mother doesn’t make me any less of a person….or a WOMAN. I have amazing gifts to offer, a kind heart and a passion to heal the world.
The bottom line is that a woman’s desire to have a child is no one’s business, except those that she decides to share her aspirations with. It’s not a question that you should ask or a subject to comment on. You never know what that person is going through or how long your questions will stick with them. So next time you meet a childless woman in her 30’s, ask her about the weather, about her job, or about her pets…Do not ask her if she is having children. If you are someone she wants to discuss it with, she will bring it up.
Hello all of my wonderful followers,
First of all, thank you so much for your support and for sticking with me through the ups and downs of figuring out my purpose in this crazy business.
I wanted to give you a heads up that I have changed my website name, but IT’S STILL ME!!!! Please don’t go anywhere!!!
Although my new blog will have an emphasis on Veganism and animal compassion, I will still offer fitness, nutrition, health, Lyme Disease information and positivity. There is still plenty of good stuff coming your way, without being interested in a vegan lifestyle.
I hope that you will take a moment to check out the new site, layout and offerings.
*Also, I am looking for health, fitness, Lyme, and Vegan bloggers who want to collaborate. Please contact me if you are interested.
Thank you again for supporting me!!!
<3, April (formerly from Fitness Nutrition and Moor)
Something that has always been a struggle for me is finding a good mix between my diet and my HUGE compassion for animals. I would turn to a vegan diet and then freak out about the lack of protein with my active lifestyle (I have now learned that vegans can absolutely get all of the protein they need).
There were definitely moments and lately, a huge turning point in my life that lead me to kick meat out of my diet for good. Check out what these moments were and “Why I Became Vegan (for the final time!)” in the video below.
*I would LOVE to hear from you. Have you ever considered a vegan diet? And if you are vegan, what was the turning point for you?