What NOT to Ask a Woman of a Certain Age

Happy Healin’ Vegan is a blog that will help you “create a happy and healthy life.” Although I intend to maintain a positive space, I will also share parts of my story that we can all learn from. This blog is a vulnerable one for me but is hopefully something that can help us all grow as happy and healthy individuals.

 

As I reflect back, I realize the most difficult part of being in my 30’s has definitely been not having children. And this was not because of my desires to have a baby, but because of society’s expectations for me to do so.

It was literally the day of my 30th birthday when people started sending diaper coupons to my email and when people started asking the “none of their business” questions regarding my fertility. In the six years since then, people have said things to me like, “You’re not getting any younger,” “Have you been to the doctor,” “Being a mom is the greatest gift in the world,” and my all-time favorite, “If you’re not going to use your uterus, maybe you should just have it removed!”

Maybe part of it was my fault. I always loved children and was a nanny who couldn’t stop raving about what Bobby or Tiffany did or said during my workdays. It was only natural that I would get married and immediately have children. But as I grew up, my desires changed. I longed to have a successful, life-changing career. And being diagnosed with an incurable illness was an obstacle that put being a mother on the back burner.

I am not saying that I don’t want to have children (Lord knows that I have been saddened and have cried with every baby announcement that has come my way). However, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and that my time will come if and when it is right. In the meantime, not being a mother doesn’t make me any less of a person….or a WOMAN. I have amazing gifts to offer, a kind heart and a passion to heal the world.

The bottom line is that a woman’s desire to have a child is no one’s business, except those that she decides to share her aspirations with. It’s not a question that you should ask or a subject to comment on. You never know what that person is going through or how long your questions will stick with them. So next time you meet a childless woman in her 30’s, ask her about the weather, about her job, or about her pets…Do not ask her if she is having children. If you are someone she wants to discuss it with, she will bring it up.

 

 

Quick Stretch for Flexibility and Cooldown

Happy Fitness Friday!

It is extremely important to cool down after a workout but we may not always know how to do that. Here is a quick stretch video that can be used as a cool down, to increase flexibility or to use in the morning to kick start your day.

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5 Tips for a Great Night’s Sleep

photo-5Are you struggling to get a good night’s sleep?!  Here are some of my favorite tips to help you sleep like a puppy:

5 Tips for a Great Night’s Sleep

1). Go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day. (Yes, even on the weekends).
2). Exercise during the day. Even a slow walk during the day will help you sleep better.
3). Meditate for 5 to 10 minutes before bed. This will help clear your mind of all the stressful events from your day.
4). Turn off all electronics an hour before bedtime. A bright screen tricks your mind into thinking it should be awake!
5). Rub a few drops of Lavender Essential Oils onto the balls of your feet. (I personally use Young Living Essential Oils). This works for me every time!!

Sleep tight! 🙂

Happy Fitness Friday!! Leg Workout

Happy Fitness Friday everyone!

I don’t know about you but I am so ready for the weekend!  Before we start enjoying it, how about a quick leg workout using the stability ball?!  Click here for the full workout and have a great weekend!

Enjoy!

 

Ab Workout Using the Ball

Do you have one of those big exercise balls, but you just aren’t sure how to use it?!

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Check out my latest Youtube video to learn some of my favorite ab exercises using the physio ball!

 

What I think is the most common GYM MISTAKE! Don’t do this!

Here is what I believe is the most common GYM MISTAKE that we are all guilty of!  Please take a moment to watch the video and consider this tip on your next trip to the gym.

 

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